On March（三月） 27th, 2013, I got an interesting phone call that most parents will never want to have. I was actually on a Zoom call with a business owner in Canada. And my wife called twice, and we have this little rule where if you call twice, that means it's kind（种类） of urgent（紧急的）. So, I picked up the phone, and I remember this so vividly, and I said, hey babe, what's up? And she said, Nick（刻痕）, there's been a shooting（射击） at the Covenant School. I said, what?

  She said, Nick, there's a shooter at the kids' school. In that moment, I was confronted（使面临） with a very unique（唯一的） decision. My children for context are five and seven. And I was met with this very unique moment of choosing a belief（相信） or a feeling of how I thought this whole situation was going to go down. So immediately, in my body, you have that immediate（立即的） adrenaline（肾上腺素(使激动兴奋等)） rush（ 冲） and reaction. And so I'm in my office, I'm right across the street from the school.

  So I pop（ 发出“砰”的一声） my door open, and I fly down that hallway, and my wife's on the phone, and I'm running literally（照字面地） as fast as I can. I'm pushing people out of the way through that hallway. And I get to the elevator, and I'm just smashing（粉碎） the elevator button as hard as I can. And while I'm doing that, I hear my wife just hysterically crying on the other line. And she said, I hope my babies are okay. And I said, you listen to me right now.

  Our kids are fine. And she said, yeah, but how do you know that? And I said, you have to believe me. Our kids are okay. What would you say? I want you to actually think about that for a moment.

  What would you say in that moment? And if we're being really honest（诚实的）, how many of you in the room would suggest, I actually have no idea what I would say. Just raise your hand. That's about 95% of people. A lot of folks（人们） might think that through that decision of just making a choice to say, yeah, no, everything's fine, that I'm being delusional, or that I'm overwhelmed by the moment, and I probably need to do a lot of therapy（治疗） to figure（ 认为） out what else I would do to respond in that moment than choosing a belief（相信） versus an emotion. Well, here's what you don't know.

  The year before, I took a sabbatical for 12 months. And I did 100 therapy sessions（会议） in a year. Those ended two weeks before this shooting happened. Isn't that interesting? And in those therapy sessions, I was just on this quest（寻求） to figure（ 认为） out something deeper about life and how to address（写名字地址） the beliefs（相信） that I had, the lies（谎言） that I believed that I knew deep（ 深深地） within inside myself were not true, but at the same time, I needed a way to expel（驱逐） those things, to see the world in a different way, so I could pursue（继续） something that was more meaningful（ 意味深长的）. And so through that experience, I encountered（遭遇） a Taoist monk（僧侣） out of all people.